mixing up

i mix up too many things.
all because of ignorance.
sometimes
i dont even know
how to be democratic- cum -assertive
So to put in another way
I can be a passive democratic person
or an active undemocratic assertive one.
To take a step further
i need to know...
how to break the bubbles and
be in the air.
to flow naturally into these states
of democracy
and assertiveness.